there's more: realigning life for Thomas

william and i have been married for 9 years now. we know each other fairly well. arguments don't really happen (not like the first year or two of marriage when you are trying to figure each other out and decide how to pick battles). we still love to talk as we fall asleep at night, share memories and dreams about the paths our future could hold. corney i know.
so along comes baby. baby reorganizes things, your relationship, your priorities, the things you pray about, your time and your entire life. baby doesn't listen and he doesn't care that you are tired and didn't eat yet. i think we had at least 3 arguments at the hospital. one about william not taking this seriously (going home to dink and get on computer when steven and vijay didn't) and not being at the hospital where i needed him on Monday at 2am. a second about parents - how often they can come over, how needy my dad is becoming, how high maintenance my mom is and how his parents impose themselves on us without asking us first if what they works for us. and the last smaller one about him dragging his feet (he didn't get the baby seat in the car until the day we left the hospital. this really surprised me because as some of you know - william is all about getting things done efficiently and on time. he obviously was in some sort of denial about the imminence of the baby's arrival).
our last argument happened the third day we were home because william had run out of patience and was letting me know it. so i finally let lose and started into him - letting him know that i wanted just as badly as he did to throw things around, that i was just as exhausted if not more so, and that having him throw temper tantrums made things twice as difficult because not only do i have to manage Thomas, i have to manage him too. that made him stop and he has been more patient since then.
ugh, and i never finished sending out christmas cards or thank you cards for gifts from the baby shower. it helps to know that millions of people take care of their babies every day, but also humbling as it undoes the way you are used to doing just about everything.