Climbing the daddy tree. thomas loves to pretend william is a tree and climb as high as he can. only, his feet are kind of sticky, and when his little toes dig into your muscle/bone, it actually hurts! the look on william's face is not really a smile, it is a grimace :p
"sorry mommy. sorry mommy. are you ok now?"
In the last couple months, thomas has started saying "sorry mommy sorry mommy" when he knows he has upset me. this month, he started asking "are you mad?"
if i say, "no i'm not mad." then he asks "are you nno-yed?" his way of saying "annoyed" (ha ha, yeah, in the back of my head i am laughing too).
currently, say he does something bad. i say "thomas what did i just say?!? i told you not to do that!" very exasperated tone. he says " sorry mommy, sorry mommy" very hard to resist. then in the next beat "Are you ok now? mommy are you ok now?" btw, this also happens after i give him a timeout for something he does purposefully. he will actually say sorry to try to get out of the time out, cries, then when the TO is over, "mommy i be ok now. are you ok?" (I know, so sweet...)
this has been hard for me, b/c depending on the mood i am in (or how little sleep i have had the night before :o), i am either ready to forgive him right away, or i want him to know i am still mad, even though he gives me a genuine, contrite sounding apology. part of me always wants to give him a hug right away and tell him, it is ok now. but every once in awhile, i just want to stay a little mad at him for making extra work for me (and a few times i have even shot him an evil eye look to let him know i am still mad). i know, i know.... he is just a toddler!! but is it ok to stay mad at your kids even when they've given you an apology? what do you do when that sad little face is looking at you so expectantly to see if everything is ok? my most frequest response is, "i am not happy right now with what you just did, but I still love you very much. But no, I am not happy. " etc etc... ugh...
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that's cool that william is such a hands on dad! you can tell they are having lots of fun! what do you do when they say sorry?!? parenting is hard--jeremiah's recently become defiant and we're still trying to figure out how to handle his little tantrums!!
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