babies are so funny - around 9 months or maybe 8, thomas started spontaneously putting his face down on anything that looked soft. he even did this to a bag of marshmellows that he found in the cabinet last week :)
at first we thought it was just big beds, but we have discovered over the last few months that babies really do know when something is nice and soft. and they like to feel it with their faces. or at least, thomas likes to feel it with his face.
now as he gets more and more aware, it is so cute watching him go around and test things out with his face. he usually does this only with beds, pillows and blankets (i forgot stuffed animals! he hugs and kisses his favorite ones now:). but he has tried it with other things that look inviting to him. i.e. marshmellows and scsi's grody fur-plastered blanket.
---------------------the next big question-------------------
how many children to have. that is so hard! i am constantly amazed that you can have as many kids as God blesses you with and not need a license or certificate or something. remember that couple in the Bible-belt state that had 16. SIXTEEN! that is crazy, a little excessive. although indicative of the fact that we do live in a free country. i would think after 10 you would need a permit or maybe a stamp.
i guess once we discovered how wonderful they are, i was ready to have 3 or 4. this is from me, mrs "i don't need children" dumbperson. ha ha... william has always maintained he wants 2 with a possible addendum for a 3rd if he really feels inclined. we had lunch with his parents a couple weeks ago and i mentioned the idea of adopting a girl if our second child is a boy and william looked uneasy. i realized that he had never mentioned this to his parents and weren't sure they would be so keen on the idea. made me remember that not everyone is so open to the idea of adopting. my thought has always been "why not??" now that we have our own, i understand why people want their own flesh and blood child. but i haven't changed my view on adopting. i still think it is a good idea. i mean, having your own child is a crapshot anyways - you really never know exactly what their personalities, physical makeups will be. i don't think adopting is that much farther away, in terms of what you might get as a grownup.
lately, i have been hearing from more and more parents that closer in age is better. why why?? well, first you get all the diapers out of the way faster. also they play together better. i have had people tell me of friends of theirs that waited, and wish they had had them closer. sheesh. i am actually dreading getting pregnant again. i told william the other night that i wish i could just incubate them, like an egg. yeah, if we could lay eggs, i would be all for that.
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Sara loves soft things too! She loves stuffed animals and gives them a head-butt. ^_^
We're not planning to have more then 2 but once our kids are full grown, I would like to start fostering children.
I am NOT looking forward to being pregnant again as well. I really want my old body back! It'd be nice if Vijay and I could take turns. ^_^
Yes, I've heard closer is better as well - from everyone except my MIL. So if you're looking for a good argument why not to have a 2nd right away, my MIL says that "it isn't fair to Sara that I have another child. I will be putting her off to the side. She's not independent to care for herself. Wait until she's 10." But then my MIL had Vijay and Ravi 10 months apart from each other, so what is she implying? ^_^ Pooor neglected Vijay. ^_^
I guess all babies love soft things. My Mom had a fleece blanket on the ground for Ethan to play on and instead he put his head on it, but he wasn't tired. My Mom also has a cotton table cloth on her dinner table and Ethan always lies his head on it! One thing Ethan also loves to do with his soft encounters is lick them. Weird! He starts rubbing his face on it, then sticks out his tongue to like the fuzz. Funny! Oh, he does the same with my sweaters I wear to work. Now all my sweaters have a little blob of dried baby spit on the left shoulder. hee hee
Pregnancy? Yeah, I have mixed feeling on being pregnant. I didn't mind it, except for being really really tired in the 1st-tri, having bloated feet at the end during the winter and not being able to wear shoes, and then the recovery afterwards.
We will have at least 2. I wouldn't mind 3, but John definitely does not like that idea. We'll see.
I look at John and his brother (4.5 years apart), my brothers (13 mos apart) and me and my brother (6.5 years apart) and I think closer is better, but not too close. John and his brother can't relate to a lot of stuff, but maybe that's because one grew up a majority of his childhood in another country. On the otherhand, I think having kids 13 mos apart like my brothers is too close.
Well, if one of us gets pregnant today, then the 2 kids would be between 19-21 mos apart. That would seem like a good spread; can't get any closer now unless one of us is already pregnant. At this age, by the time the 2nd baby came, the older sibling would probably be independent enough to not need Mommy and Daddy all the time.
Thomas is so adorable. We wanted kids, but was not into it like some. I guess until you have your own kids, it is hard to understand why others say it is different when it is your own kids. Now we know. :) Having them 2 years apart is good, better get to work. I think 2 is it for us, don't think I can handle more. :)
hi annie!
do you guys have a website? if you do, let me know (ck1@myway.com). william said that he thought you have sent him the link but can't find it. would love to see more pics of little brennen. :)
Hey Catherine! I love your comment on laying eggs!! yes, i would be all for that too!! Thomas looks just as cute as ever..and yes..i still want to steal him..even after having baby lexy! :)
if ppl can lay eggs then the population would be truly out of control :P babies are addictive.
hi jessica! cynthia! hey merv buddies... i miss working sometimes.... i miss seeing you guys day to day.
i agree - babies are addicting.... but they are a LOT of work. that would b the controlling factor. OH! plus they are expensive. just wait until they are in school. with all their little friends, having to dish out $$ for monthly birthday parties is making my head spin thinking about it...
Speaking of birthday parties....
Happy Birthday, Mr. Thomas.
Wait until she is 10...I take it that is Regina's over-exaggeration. After 10 years I'm sure the thought of another baby in the house is not appealing.
Although I will say one thing..."neglected" VJ actually turned out quite normal and well rounded didn't he? So maybe having them close together ain't so bad after all.
If VJ has any neglected-by-parent issues somewhere buried deep in his subconsious, he's sure not showing any bit of it....
Happy birthday Thomas!
Yes babies are already a bundle of money. I'm not looking forward to all of Sara's wants when she desires what her friends have...
I think whatever I share regarding family planning to my MIL is always considered a bad idea. Immediately she takes the defensive argument and goes to the extreme of what I'd like to do. If I said I wanted to wait 10 years for another child, she would've told me to have one right away. :P
Yes Vijay turned out alright. I don't think my MIL thought much when she replied to my sharing. Once I shared with her how I want to foster kids one day and she immediately said "oh no, don't do that". But there was no reason to her answer, just an immediate reflex to disagree.
Ops, well I should be keeping my new years resolution to be at peace with ILs... ^_^
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